IF ONLY I CAN SAY THESE AND GET AWAY WITH IT.

Have you ever thought of giving naughty and sometimes sarcastic replies to questions asked?

I have. There are many things I would like to say to family members if I could get away with it. 

Most elderly are checked into a care centre simply because the family members cannot manage them or care for them physically. They could be tired and feeling helpless, yet, family members never failed to surprise me with unreasonable questions.

I know they are desperate and sometimes exasperated because they can do nothing much to care for their parents, I understand this, but I feel that sometimes the most important person in a care centre, which is the carers were being unfairly treated. 

I do not belief that customer is always right when they start scolding and use abusive and condescending tone towards the carers. Personally, I have been askeddesperate  questions that I have decided to give a tongue in cheek answers to in this posting, which you will never hear me telling the family members.

Desperate question or DQ: Why my aunt/mother/father who can walk in the previous home, but now she hardly walks?

Tongue in cheek answers or TICA: Oh that’s because your aunt is getting older weaker. They have good days and bad days as they aged.

DQ : But that cannot be, your place is advertised to be so much better, it looks nicer than the other place.

TICA:  Probably the other place is an Olympic training centre for the seniors preparing the elderly for marathon or the 25km walk event. We are just a professional daily assisted living centre.

DQ : She couldn't walk maybe because you all don't help them to walk?

TICA : Er, where were you when we helped your mom to walk? What kind of children you are? You should quit your job and sit in our centre to see us when we exercise her.

DQ : Why my mom looks older now compare from last visit last year (children living in uk) ?

TICA : We call this ageing, you will get there too if you stop asking question like this.

DQ : Why is it that my father is eating less?

TICA : Food he likes doctor won’t let them eat, food they don’t like you kept giving to make sure he stay healthy to live a longer miserable live.

DQ : Why is it that the staff sits around doing nothing?

TICA : It is call lunch break.

DQ : You must force my mom to walk, she always complaint about leg being painful. She always pretends.

TICA : You called your mom a liar, may she is lying about her age too. Please take her to nursery school.

DQ : I saw your staff using wheelchair the other day, why don’t they listen to our simple instructions?

TICA : Because your mom complaint her leg is painful and we do not know that she can pretend and lie. Obviously ou are the only one who can take care of your mom, would uou like me to tell our manager to prepare the refund cheque?